Wednesday, October 4, 2023

On August 26th, 2023 (You Learn to Like Pink)

 One Year. August 26th marked one year from when I learned I had Stage 3 Triple Negative Breast Cancer. I'm alive. I'm still fighting. We don't know if I'm free of it yet. So much has had to be thrown at it. But I am here. 


Here's a reflection.  

"PINK" 

You’ll never forget where you were on that day when the phone rings with results

The moment in time when you learn  your body has turned against itself

Grown things it should not and created dangers to your life

Your heart stalls. You forget how to breathe

The color drains from your face as reality sets in

The voice relaying their apologies along with what kind it is

Next steps, how they’ll do all they can, but more tests need to be run

At home you get lost looking it up

Throwing yourself into research, statistics, and the fear grows

The fog sets in as scans are done, blood drawn, and you wait

And pray they don’t find it anywhere else

The meeting with oncology with all the big terms

Of big drugs and big treatments with big side effects and long times in the unknown

But it is a chance to survive

You’re sent home with a binder, flyers on support groups, resources

And items in pink

You learn to like pink

Through preparation, and the “thoughts and prayers” from others

And the insurance calls and the many nightmares 

You put plans in place and pieces together and the day comes

The needle inserted, medications given to help with side effects

Then the drugs infused from a nurse in a hazmat suit

Because of how volatile the cocktail is

The red devil that could be part of the angelic cure

A talk with the nurses. Reminders of what to expect

You are going to get worse before better

Hair will fall out, taste will change

You’ll vomit, be weak, and it will hurt

But you need to eat and rest and try to keep your strength

Looking at those around you in various phases of battle

A bag given with handmade comfort items

And other things to see you through

More items in pink

You learn to like pink

Days and nights blend until you don’t know where you are

The simple act of breathing, talking, and eating, takes so much

The isolation as those whom you hoped would call

Or maybe those who would even visit

They’re all quiet or excuse with “don’t want to disturb”

You get it, they are uncomfortable. But it hurts as bad as the drugs do

Those moments when someone does reach out

A call, a card, a text, a package

It lifts your soul when you can barely lift your head

The head that no longer has hair

You fight, and pray, fight, drag through, battle on

Counting down cycles as your counts look like hell

And you hope your body can hold up through this curse that could be the cure

Wigs, scarves, earrings, bracelets, Soft shirts, awareness gear

Support group calls and webinars, Appointment after appointment

There’s so much pink

You learn to like pink

And finally, the infusions end and you get to breathe

A few short weeks to get some strength, put on some weight

Give those supporting you a chance to rest, as they are exhausted too

A break before the next round of the fight starts

Surgery to cut the remnants of the offense

The part of your body that went haywire now removed

Along with so much more of you.

Incisions, drains, drama, and waiting on pathology

The wait is agonizing. Was there more, did it spread 

The weeks of radiation that follow

Burns and blisters. Exhaustion worse than ever before

But your hair is starting to come back,and food doesn’t taste like metal anymore

There are talks of follow-up treatment

Supportive medications, lingering pill chemo

The wait…. So much waiting, Months in limbo before the next scan

And all along the way

You learn to like pink



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